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Does what you say to your self really matter?

To put it as bluntly and simply as possible, nothing…absolutely nothing…matters more. Your
subconscious hears…and believes…and receives as commands…everything you say about yourself
and your world. Everything you feel and think is a form of self hypnosis.

And nobody, no matter what you may have heard, has more influence over who you are and who you
will become than you do.

“Oh, but wait! I’m the way I am because when I was a child…”

Yes, that is probably true. And, now that you are not a child anymore, you are still choosing to act as
if you are. And, since you keep telling yourself that you are “that way”, you stay that way.

Sorry. That’s the way it is.

Or, rather, the way you are.

It’s that simple…and that complicated.

The fact that you are reading this means you not happy with who you are. Yet, you made the
choice…and keep making the choice…to stay that way. How can you change? Decide to do it.

“But I did that. I said affirmations for almost a week and nothing happened. I still woke as the same
old me”

Well, get real. If all your hair fell out from chemotherapy, would you expect to have a full head of
hair the day after you finished chemo? And, even when you have been assured that the cancer is
gone, you are still going to be you. Changed, yes. Possibly very changed. But you will still be
you…and, hopefully, very glad of it.

So, with that in mind, perhaps you would like to conduct an experiment. Just out of curiosity. Just to
see what happens. Play a few games with yourself. For a month or two.

Try talking to yourself as you would talk to your boss. After all, you are, aren’t you? Your own boss, I
mean. Well, think about it. In the final analysis, who is REALLY in charge of how much you earn?

Right.

So, does it pay (pun intended) to be nice to the person in charge of your income? (Just one of the
many, many things that you could/should take charge of, by the way.)

If you want more of the good stuff from “the boss”, how do you go about getting it?

You’re nice, right? Very nice. Even when you don’t exactly feel like being nice, right? Even if the last
thing you feel like doing is being nice, right? It’s what you have to do to get up high on the list for all
the good things that come along, isn’t it?

Well, if you fail to treat the person in your life who is even more powerful than your boss (Yes, you!)
with appreciation and respect, why would you be surprised if you get crap for a life?

And, if you can “be nice” to your less-than-perfect boss, you can be nice to yourself. Not only that,
but it’s highly probable that the rewards will be even greater.

So, let’s review how you do that. After all, it won’t hurt your relationship with your boss if you bone
up on some of those skills.

Express appreciation and pay compliments: Notice how many things are done well and comment on
them. Not silently. Say them aloud. In writing. To anyone who will listen. You don’t even have to use
the “I” word. You can just make general statements like…

o It takes effort to dress well and look nice everyday.

o It feels good to get so much done in a day.

o Taking care of all those people and being nice about it is a real skill. It takes attention,

adaptability and practice to be good at it.

o Keeping things neat and organized isn’t easy. It’s a juggling act that deserves respect.

o There are so many things that require attention, from gas in the car to food to eat, that it

really takes skill, energy, and talent to keep it things running reasonably smoothly.

List at least ten for every day. Notice everything. Look for things to notice.

Notice the good: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain. Everybody does the best they can with what
they have and who they are at the moment. What could be better than best?

o Being reliable is a very valuable trait.

o Keeping a sense of humor when things get tense is good for everyone.

o Quiet people make good listeners and everyone wants to be heard.

o Being passionate about preventing hurtful things often improves the situation quickly.

o Walking away until everybody cools down makes it easier to calmly solve problems.

Let no good deed or thought go unacknowledged.

Forgive mistakes: Anyone who DOES anything is going to make mistakes.

o Acknowledge a mistake and take responsibility for repairing it.

o Apologize even when it’s “not my fault”… you are sorry it happened, aren’t you?

o Fix it, repair it, or make up for it…ASAP

o Learn from it.

Forget it.

In summary, respect, appreciate, be grateful, and forgive.

Your subconscious mind believes everything you tell it. Everything. If you want to be a better person,
treat yourself as if you already are, and it will happen. And, you will be a lot happier for noticing.

How do you think your boss would react if you suddenly stopped whining and complaining and started
complimenting and appreciating?

Very probably, your boss would be very pleasantly surprised, wonder what happened, and then
decide that the change was really great!

...and, you can count on the fact that your subconscious is at least as human and a lot more
suggestible than your boss. (Smile.)

DEALING WITH YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS – DAILY SELF HYPNOSIS

"How To Talk To Yourself"

(Hint…what would you say to your boss?)